ARE YOU READY TO GET SOME HONESTY THROWN AT YOU!?!
Education is great.
Education is wonderful.
Education leads to the world being awesome.
This will not be a post of me ragging on Post-Secondary Education or its merits, but it will be one where I talk about why you shouldn’t go to university/college.
There are bad reasons for going to university/college.
I don’t want anyone to repeat the mistakes I’ve made and I want you to carefully consider your path before you embark on it.
REASONS TO NOT GO TO UNIVERSITY:
1) Because your parents want you to
This is the #1 reason because it is absolutely, positively, without a doubt the WORST reason to go to university.
Here’s a little secret from one sort of grown up to a sort of growing up person: DON’T LISTEN TO ANYTHING YOUR PARENTS SAY.
K, I don’t really mean that, sometimes they can have good advice (and don’t take this as an excuse to be a jerk and skip out on stuff like cleaning your room or being a nice person) but what I do mean is DO NOT GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE ITS SOMETHING YOUR PARENTS WANT FOR YOU.
YOU ARE NOT YOUR PARENTS AND BEING THEIR CHILD DOES NOT MAKE YOU THEIR PROPERTY OR AN EXTENSION OF THEIR SUCCESS/FAILURE AS HUMAN BEINGS.
YOU ARE A SENTIENT BEING, CAPABLE OF GREAT THOUGHTS AND FEELINGS.
We all want our parents to be proud of us (often especially if we feel like they don’t care about us) but spending thousands of dollars to do something you don’t really like is NOT a good idea.
University and/or College are places of learning, places of growth and places of knowledge.
If you’re there for anything other than yourself – it will strain not only your mental and physical health, but also your relationship with your parents.
Even if you never tell them that you’re only doing it for them, you will grow to resent them, resent university and resent yourself for listening.
Listen to your heart and follow YOUR dreams.
You’re 18, if you want to spend 2 or 3 years trying the whole singing thing – DO IT!
If you want to head out to Australia and work on a dive boat – do it! (I have a buddy who did).
It’s YOUR life and when your parents are gone, will you be proud of what you’ve done for yourself? Or will you still regret listening to them?
PS. Don’t believe the crap they say when they tell you “If you don’t go now, you’ll never go.” People go back to school ALL THE TIME! It’s absolutely manageable, it’ll be a bit tougher if you go when you’re older – but if you aren’t ready right now it’ll feel impossible.
2) Because you want to escape
Let’s say you have an awful home life (I feel you).
Let’s say you’re gay and you want to run away (I feel you).
Let’s say you’re bored of your little town and you’re dying for a new experience.
Let’s say high school sucked, the people sucked and you want to run away.
UNIVERSITY AND COLLEGE ARE NOT PLACES TO RUN AWAY TO.
I went to university when I was 17 because my choices were stay home and work or go to university.
I absolutely HATED being at home.
I had a countdown to the day I was leaving home starting at 389 days.
I used to plan out how to run away and get away with it, but I was always too scared to do it.
Between cutting myself in places no one could see and starving myself on and off – I was a total disaster literally dying to escape.
I should not have used university as my escape, I should have done Katimavik like my best friend did and found myself that way.
DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT IF YOU WANT TO ESCAPE!
University is full of pressures and if you’re trying to run away from one stressful situation – diving into another is not very smart.
You’ll have friends who go away to school, if they aren’t living in res – go move in with them!
Get a crappy job!
Flip burgers and hang out with your friends for a while, until you get sick of it and then call up OSAP and get some of that cash money and go to school.
It’s OK to do that.
You’ll have to be brave to follow a different path, but it won’t be as painful as everyone says it is.
3) Because you think it’ll be one big party
Will you party in university?
Will you party too much?
(If you’re an irresponsible dill hole like me)
Will it negatively affect your grades?
If you’re only there to party, will you actually even want to go to class or are you spending thousands of dollars to act out every scene of every stupid American movie you saw about college?
You know the answer to this.
Like I said previously, if you’re not ready for the commitment and the responsibility of university or college yet, DON’T GO.
You will waste your money and you will be unhappy – that’s a guarantee.
You aren’t avoiding life, you’re LIVING IT RIGHT NOW.
HIGH SCHOOL IS LIFE.
WORKING IS LIFE.
WORKING A “BAD” (no such thing) JOB IS LIFE!
YOU ARE ALIVE AND YOU ARE LIVING.
4) Because you are unsure of what you want
Don’t waste your money.
You can do other things to find out your passions, but spending a few grand at school is a bad idea.
The best way to motivate yourself for school is to do something you really hate for a while.
5) Because you are smart
My buddy and I were the two “smart” kids in our high school.
Guess who struggled the most with university, its pressures and our health?
You know the answer to that one.
Don’t go to university because you’re the smart kid and university is what smart kids do.
At this point, you’re probably thinking:
Damn Krista, you just listed a whole bunch of reasons why I SHOULDN’T go to school, so why should I go to school?
Here are my reasons to go to university/college:
GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE YOU LOVE LEARNING!
GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE YOU WANT TO BE A DOCTOR/LAWYER/TEACHER/PROFESSOR/ASTRONAUT!
GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE YOU’VE ALWAYS DREAMED OF IT!
GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE YOU’RE READY TO TAKE ON THE RESPONSIBILITY OF SCHOOL!
GO TO UNIVERSITY BECAUSE YOU ARE EXCITED ABOUT LEARNING!
I would love to go back to school NOW with the knowledge I have of myself.
I have not been the most successful student and its because I didn’t use university as well as I could have.
You are paying for the service and for the knowledge.
You wouldn’t buy something you don’t want to use, so don’t.
Wait until you’re ready, it’ll be worth it!