I found some posts on tumblr that inspired me to write this piece.
This is my advice on how to make the most out of your time in university.
If I’ve learned anything in university, its that I don’t really know anything and that expectations vs reality will never entirely match up.
Drop your expectations and let your university experience shape you and who you will become.
it’s not about finding yourself. it’s about losing yourself completely and trusting that the world around you is going to shape who you are and that it’s okay. (advice to a friend many years ago).
Appreciate this opportunity.
Even when you have 3 papers due and you’ve procrastinated until the night before and you want to kill someone because you’re over caffeinated and over tired, you’re still getting an opportunity many dream of and its important to be grateful.
Appreciate everyone you meet in university: the older students who take you under their wings, the professors (even the ones you hate) and your friends in your first year.
University will be a trying time.
You will have sad days, angry days, stressful days, happy days and some days you’ll feel like giving up. Just keep going.
All of those things are 100% on you.
You are an adult, a very young one, but an adult no less.
It’s time to cut the cord and sail off on your adventure.
Things will not always go your way and you will face many barriers.
They could be as difficult as failing a course, dealing with bullies in residence and/or falling in love with the wrong person(/people).
You’re going to make some bad choices, but that’s okay – its about learning from those mistakes and moving forward.
Forgive yourself and forgive your friends for not always saying the right thing.
We’re all in this together.
You will be the most loved when you smile and are happy.
I’ve battled with depression and anxiety.
I’ve had many other very difficult situations happen.
But, I survived.
I look to make other people smile and make them laugh. I still have very dark days and can often be very negative (call it a disposition if you must).
When I did Frosh week this year and tried to share my joy and love for my friends and this school – I had an awakening.
You can change and you can be happy and you can fill yourself with love.
You can create love in yourself.
When you begin to share love, and share it intentionally it will come back to you tenfold.
It was fast but it was packed full of memories of happiness, heartbreak, love, stress and growth.
You will see who you’ve become.
Try not to rush to grow up; give yourself the time you need.
You life will hopefully be long and its not a race.
There is no metaphor, analogy or simile that can adequately describe the journey you are on.
Just live it and be.
You are not alone.